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I'm writing this.

So that people would know

Psikologi seorang perempuan

Seorang isteri

Seorang surirumah

Trying so hard to be the best wife and mother to her husband and children.

Maybe you know about this all along.

But still 

I just wanna say this

I just wanna write this.

Bila seorang isteri

Ask for something

And you. As her husband says "No. I would give this much only. Got a lot of baju already. Its too expensive."

And then you give as much as she ask or even more.

But the feeling.

The taste.

Is not the same anymore.

While you saying NO, they are so frustrated.

She just want to have a moment maybe to shopping for the whole family.

But because of money.

She had to ask you.

But the moment you said NO.

She knows that she had to do something to get things done.

To shopping for the whole family.

And thats when she try so damn hard to korek2 dalam tabung or account mana yang boleh dia guna untuk fulfill semua tu.

Coz kids need to be happy.

Kids need that new shirt.

As much as she are happy when she's in that age of her kids, she wants the exact same feeling her kids feel.

But the difference is she don't have money.

She have to work for it.

And sometimes.

It become 'tawar hati'

Adding up here and there the 'terasa' part.

It will become tawar.

And the gift?

The money that husband give?

Is sour.

Is 'tawar'

No spice at all.

Why?

Because she already lose hope on you.

Eventhought you are the provider to that family.

So husbands.

Mind your language.

Mind your 'joke' part.

Sometimes it will make your wife become 'tawar'.

Just a kind reminder to everyone.

Mixed Marriage

For those who think that mixed marriage is an easy thing.

Well

You got it wrong.

Especially for the communication part.

Coz it will have so many many many miscommunication throughout the marriage.

As me

Cannot speak Hokkien and Mandarin.

I tempt to get misunderstanding

And for that time

You will think that I should learn.

In real time.

Wont have enough time

As you have to do everything and any house chores depends on you.

And also you need to find money to meet your needs 

For husband

Should understand that his wife is not Mandarin/Hokkien speaker

So he should tell everything

To avoid misunderstanding

Not just pandai2 you lah nak masuk dalam family I.

It will affect your relationship.

One will outspokenly do anything that you think right.

And the other one silently killed inside

And get damage.

Point here is.

Communication is the KEY.

Communicate

Talk

As simple as

I don't like that.

As simple as that.

And appreciate what your spouse tell u

Its her/his feeling

Respect it

Not condemn it